By far the best habit I have formed! Because always taking care of problems and feeling like your entire time is occupied with putting out fires is emotionally exhausting. We can often lose perspective and, at times, I have felt like I …
Having wonderful people to help you along is great, but you can’t and should not always rely on others. You could develop ways to be your own buddy-system and make your own life easier, even when it feels impossible. Becoming your own …
Managing your own emotions and unpacking them in a healthy way is easier said than done. When you are in the grip of emotions, making sense of it all can be quite difficult. And often times we might end up saying things …
This has been by far the hardest exercise I have done, from an emotional perspective. It is much easier to look at things in black and white, to see people as good or evil. It is much harder to really make the …
Hopefully you have managed to find some resources, online or in print form, to make you feel less alone and offer more perspectives. But those will not always be helpful, especially if you are dealing with specific problems. From time to time, …
It took me a long time to understand myself in the context of polyamory, to become really comfortable and build up my confidence. For me, it was not an easy journey, but there have been things that have helped me along the …
I named it so, because that is pretty much what it was. It was a list of ideas to read and read again, in case of an emergency freakout. This beautiful list has pulled me out of some pretty dark times and …
I was lucky to hear of this extremely useful concept during a poly event and it has helped me so much! It is basically a work-in-progress, a list of all the concepts, words and tools that have helped or might help you …
If there is one thing that I fiercely preach, it is this: leniency. To yourself and to others. It’s not easy and I have to remind myself of it often, because I do forget it. We often know where we need to …
A lot of the help that I found in dealing with difficult aspects of poly, was in resources about non-monogamy. I heard the stories of all of these people who were happy and fulfilled in their multiple relationships and I wanted to …
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