This has been by far the hardest exercise I have done, from an emotional perspective. It is much easier to look at things in black and white, to see people as good or evil. It is much harder to really make the …
Blog – Musings
It has happened to you. You go about your day, minding your business, and all of a sudden, one of your social media accounts gets infected. A dickpic has landed in your inbox. It is surely not the first and you can …
Hopefully you have managed to find some resources, online or in print form, to make you feel less alone and offer more perspectives. But those will not always be helpful, especially if you are dealing with specific problems. From time to time, …
It took me a long time to understand myself in the context of polyamory, to become really comfortable and build up my confidence. For me, it was not an easy journey, but there have been things that have helped me along the …
I named it so, because that is pretty much what it was. It was a list of ideas to read and read again, in case of an emergency freakout. This beautiful list has pulled me out of some pretty dark times and …
I was lucky to hear of this extremely useful concept during a poly event and it has helped me so much! It is basically a work-in-progress, a list of all the concepts, words and tools that have helped or might help you …
If there is one thing that I fiercely preach, it is this: leniency. To yourself and to others. It’s not easy and I have to remind myself of it often, because I do forget it. We often know where we need to …
A lot of the help that I found in dealing with difficult aspects of poly, was in resources about non-monogamy. I heard the stories of all of these people who were happy and fulfilled in their multiple relationships and I wanted to …
Something I have though a lot about, especially after coming out of my own “dark ages” of poly was that the best thing I got out of poly was a better me. Even if I decide, tomorrow, that I don’t want any …
I sincerely think that in order to thrive in polyamory, we must first take a good, hard look at the culture we were raised in and the fantasy world that made us who we are today. Ideas like finding “the one” and …
