This post is to celebrate working on yourself and feeling no shame about the work that you do!
I grew up in a culture where therapy was called “going to the shrink” and it was what crazy people did. Crazy people being those humans who were, obviously, “not normal”. Dealing with bouts of depression and anxiety since my early adolescence, I knew I needed some help along the way, but it took me a damn long time to actually seek the help of a professional who could be there for me, listen to me and come along on my journey.
It took me a long time because going to therapy was and continues to be stigmatised. It is something you don’t really talk about. It is something private, where private has become a code word for things we never talk about because we fear the judgement of others. But I have come to view therapy as self maintenance. You don’t have to only go to therapy when you are broken and feel there is no hope. You can got to therapy to learn more about yourself and get better at whatever you feel needs improving.
This is the day that I attended my first psychotherapy session in 5 years. It felt great. It felt even better knowing that this time around I am not looking to “fix” anything anymore. Because there is nothing to fix. I am doing quite ok, but I could also use some help. And professional help is the most useful to get. Not to mention that getting some thigs off your chest really makes you so much better.
So I am very grateful that I have the opportunity, the means and the privilege to do this work with myself. I am proud of myself for not being scared and ashamed anymore. And I would encourage you all to give it a try. It could help you more than you know. Or if you know someone who is struggling, maybe suggest therapy to them. Because we do not only need maintenance of our physical selves, but also of our mental and emotional world.